Can a picky eater find happiness with an adventurous foodie? Modern daters debate the gravity of relationship gaps

As if modern dating weren’t difficult enough, the internet has become obsessed with finding niche compatibility tests and categorizing the differences between partners, with a string of so-called relationship gaps going viral on platforms such as TikTok recently.

Now the latest one has arrived, and it’s already proving to be polarizing: the restaurant gap.

Described by The New York Times as “a misalignment in tastes, spending habits and culinary curiosity,” a restaurant gap can take many forms. Take a picky eater and an adventurous foodie, or even a devout reservation chaser who incessantly scrolls through Resy versus someone who couldn’t care less as long as food is served.

For many on social media, the gap rings true to life. “As someone that doesn’t often enjoy fine dining, I will not continue a relationship with someone that loves it,” a user said on X, responding to a thread on the topic posted by Elena Burger, a new media writer for a16z.

As part of that same thread, Burger shared a screenshot from Hinge with a reply that read, in part, “What if I said I’d take you to Nobu Malibu for oceanview drinks . . . ” Burger then commented: “I take back everything I said. restaurant gaps are real.”

Another X user replied: “Lost me at Nobu.”

The latest in a flurry of viral relationship gaps

While wage and age gaps have long been mainstream labels for relationships, newer variations have taken over social media. Notoriously, a “swag gap” refers to a relationship with an imbalance in style and coolness.

gaps in relationships:

– restaurant gap (going out vs. staying in)
– museum gap (do you want wander vs. sprint)
– travel gap (need to travel a lot vs. fine with 1-2 trips a year)
– money gap (spending heavily vs. stingy)
– living gap (city vs. suburb vs. middle of nowhere)
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For some, these labels are an easy ways of explaining whether a relationship might work. Some gaps, like a politics gap—liberal versus conservative—are straightforward, while others might be more niche, like a credit card gap: Are you a cash back or a reward points person?

The surge in viral relationship gaps may highlight tensions in dating that are often repeated and could potentially be avoided.

“Not all reservations about gaps are unwarranted,” the Atlantic argued last month. “Asymmetries can, for instance, result in lopsided power dynamics. Just think of the granddaddy of today’s hyperspecific divisions: the age gap, which is far more likely to involve an older man and a younger woman, and can truly be troubling when the younger party is very young.”

But for others, the abundance of gaps reveals a cultural dissonance of modern dating.

“More men and women need to hear the phrase ‘work it out’ the first time their relationship hits the slightest bump,” one user said on X.

And others even highlight how gaps might make for more interesting interactions.

“How boring would it be to be with someone who sees the world exactly the way you do,” one person wrote on X in reply to a list of relationship gaps. “There’s supposed to be some duality.”

As the discourse continues, and the internet awaits the next buzzy gap, others argue that, at least in terms of the restaurant gap, there might be more important debates to be had.

“[How] can we have this dialogue when society hasn’t even gotten over the “even split vs itemized” debate,” one X user said.

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